Badaunt
replied at
11:24pm
on
Jun 5 2013
Anteli09 -
That's a tough one. While I agree with you that it doesn't seem equitable to give the same amount for a family that has everything (i.e. your niece nephew) vs the family that doesn't have as much (nephews) I think you should consider a few things:
First, have you spoken to the parents (particularly the parents of the well off family) to get their thoughts? This might take some of the pressure off you.
Next, given the age difference, it definitely makes it a little easier to dole out different types of gifts - one thing to consider is spending on items the little ones really need (to help out their family) and on experiences - i.e. a night at the movies, a pizza night, a game night, for the older ones. Those things might cost less depending on how you manage them.
I can tell you I have a situation that is a little like the one you describe. My husband and I are better off than his brother and wife. Still, it does feel a little odd knowing that my in laws have started college funds for my nieces and not my child. I can guess why they have done so, but I would definitely appreciate my mother in law coming to me and explaining her rationale, whatever it is. She hasn't at this point but it sure would make me feel a bit to know that's the reason vs assuming it or feeling a bit awkward about it.
Good luck!